It is sometimes hard to see light at the end of the tunnel when you are stuck in a long dark tunnel.
Perhaps it wasn’t so dark when you went in, or maybe you didn’t realize it was so long. But now you are stuck.
You can see no light at either end.
Don’t turn around, or you will lose your sense of direction. If you sit down to try and work it out, you might end up going the wrong way.
Have you ever felt like that?
Most of us have.
What is your tunnel?
- Toxic work situation?
- Betrayed by a friend… your partner?
- Lost your job?
- Had bad news about your health?
- Or did you go chasing after something you thought better than you have now, only to find is was an illusion.
Whatever the reason, you are stuck in a tunnel.
The reaction to any one of these, and myriads of other causes, is the key to your way out of the tunnel.
Do you feel disconnected?
Sadly, we live in a world where everyone seems to be so busy, but is their busy-ness their way to escape their feelings of hurt, anger, or sadness?
It is a common way to cope… keep yourself so busy you don’t have time to think about your situation. However, at the end of the day, it is difficult to hide from your feelings.
What do you do?
- Get drunk
- Have an argument with someone
- Feel worthless.
You might be surprised…
If you knew how many people are suffering the same feelings of disconnection, loneliness or despair.
Perhaps it is time to ‘own your feelings.’ Identify the main cause you are stuck in a tunnel with no idea which way is forward.
Constantly trying to run from your emotions is exhausting and counter-productive.
People (or a person) may have hurt you, but your reaction to that hurt is your feeling.
Identify that, allow yourself to feel the emotion.
Are you able to tell a person who hurt you what you experienced… without blaming him or her?
Are you able to tell an employer the effect the atmosphere at work is having on you?
Is there a pinprick of light in your tunnel?
If it you discovered your friend was feeling what you are feeling, how would you respond?
If so, do you not deserve the same treatment?
Respond to your own feelings in the same way you would a loved one who was sad or struggling.
Reactions are our responsibility.
If we do not stop to ‘own’ that, we will continue to blame others for our reactions and run from one tunnel to another.
If a spouse or child has died – it is okay to feel the loss. Know that over time the loss will still be there, but it will change and become bearable.
If your work situation is having an effect on your health and you can do nothing to change it… look for another job. (But don’t complain in an interview for a new job about the one you are leaving.)
If you are diagnosed with a serious, or terminal illness, yes, grief what you are losing, then make the best of the time, or abilities you still have.
Why spoil the present by dwelling on things from the past or fears about the future?
A long time ago someone said to me, “Stop and smell the roses.”
It can be a challenge to step back from your feelings but it is good for your health.
“Refrain from anger and abandon wrath; do not fret—it can only bring harm.”
Psalm 37: 8 Berean Study Bible