“Happy Mother’s Day” was the greeting from a special friend. Her next line was the one that inspired me… “If there were no mothers in the world, Christ would never have been born. “
So, this post is ‘a tale of two mothers’ – in vastly different circumstances and time settings, then us.
Christ’s mother did not have it easy.
Most mothers would say they do not have it ‘easy’ especially in this age where there are so many thing to worry a mother.
I remember when I used to be a leader in a girls’ club run by the church I attended, we discussed what it would have been like to be pregnant and unmarried in that time period.
Mary and Joseph were betrothed. The word has lost much of its meaning over the centuries. At that time at the betrothal the woman was legally married even though she still remained in her father’s house. She could not have what we now call ‘a relationship’ with another man unless she was divorced from the man she was betrothed to. Yes, a betrothal was that binding. When Mary accepted what the angel told her, she would have known what her punishment could be… stoning.
Joseph could have claimed she had been adulterous and she would have been stoned.
How much faith did she need to carry her child, knowing she was still a virgin, but would her story of an angel visiting her be believed?
The Bible records how that turned out. God sent an angel to Joseph… he must have needed faith too.
- How much faith did Christ’s mother need when He left the family business and started wandering the countryside preaching about the Kingdom of God?
- What mother would not understand the agony she would have felt watching Him crucified?
It takes faith to be a mother, and as a common saying goes… it takes a community to raise a child.
What if you were the first mother?
By the time Eve became a mother, she and Adam had been cast out of the garden. This is how I understand the scripture…
Did Eve wonder what was happening to her body, or do we assume that because Adam knew she would become the mother of all the living that God had taught them previously?
Some things are instinctive to a mother; other things are learned. Who did Eve have to ask? Who was her role model?
Her firstborn, Cain, was the first murderer. But, he was her firstborn. Did she grieve over him? Did she feel a failure as a mother?
Perhaps you have never thought of any of these matters, but I do. A friend said it is because I have a writer’s mind. Perhaps this is true.
Everyone reading this had a mother.
She may be alive, she might not be, or she might be in that ‘twilight world’ of Alzheimer’s disease, or dementia, leaving you mourning the living.
Nevertheless, she carried you in her body for nine months, felt your first movements, laboured to deliver you into the world.
That was only the start. She fed you, changed your soiled nappies/diapers, and encouraged you to walk.
How many times did your mother listen to your stumbling attempts to remember words… or letters on a page as you learned to read?
If you are reading this, your mother was your first teacher… and she was proud of every challenge you overcame, and cried over your disappointments.
It is not easy being a mother nowadays
There are wars, kidnappings, murders, drugs, and so many other things to concern you. Will your child be safe at school must be one of the questions. Some research at the link below.
I am grateful that I did not have to worry about any of those. Yes, there were things to worry about, to pray about, and sometimes to tear my hair out about, but they survived and so did I.
Yes, it takes faith to be a mother in today’s world although sometimes mothers worry unnecessarily.
All mothers can do is to give their sons and daughters the tools, and hope, pray and if appropriate… guide their children as they step into adulthood.
No, it is not easy… but whether, Eve, Mary or you… it is the most important role you will ever have in your life, whether appreciated or not.
Special thoughts and prayers for all the people whose mother has died.
This week’s musing.