Who or what DO you honor? This is the Easter long weekend. I know some families will have ‘the knock.’
You open the door and there is a police officer (or two) standing there. ‘The knock’ for my husband and I came at four in the morning. Our son was not an Easter fatality, but the knock is the same horrifying reality for all who have experienced it.
There will be more fatalities during this time than at most other times of the year. “Drivers are urged to take extra care over the next few days with the Easter long weekend historically proving a dangerous one for fatal accidents.”
Do we honor the road rules?
It would seem not. Queensland had a horror start to the Easter long weekend.
- Police are concerned at the number of people who continue to drink-drive with 44 people charged on day one
- 275 roadside drug tests were carried out on Thursday with 44 drivers testing positive to illegal substances.
- 2,858 drivers were clocked by speed cameras going over the limit, while another 390 speeding fines were handed out by Police.
- 29 people were busted using their mobile phones behind the wheel while 31 fines were handed out for seat belt offences.
Across Australia, road deaths were already being recorded on Friday morning.
Do we honor our families?
Going by the Queensland statistics it would seem not. Most other States will have similar statistics,
What do those statistics speak of?
- Disregard for the law
- Lack of love for their families
- ‘It will never happen to me’
Unless someone sets out to deliberately murder another person, the answer fits somewhere in one of those categories.
Nevertheless, the result is the same. Deep hurt, unbelievable sorrow, guilt, emotional pain. There are only a few pathetically inadequate words to attempt to describe the reaction to ‘the knock.’
‘Honor your father and mother’ is one of the Ten Commandments. Well, not only younger people have parents, so do grown-up children. The command to honor parents applies as long as the parents are alive.
Also children who are parents should think of their children.
Do you want your child/children to grow up fatherless or motherless?
Most people do not want that, many never think of the consequences, or realize this is what they are risking.
All of us need to be more ‘thinking’ people.
Allow me to tell you about the last night with our son.
Before 'the knock.’
It was a warm summer evening, and our son who had been through a dreadful week, was in a happier mood. His friend, who had recently passed his driving test, was coming to pick him up and they were going out.
Jim, (not his real name) hugged his Dad and I, and went out to meet his friend who waited at the end of our driveway. His father followed him part way, delighted that Jim seemed to have survived the terrible week.
“Dad,” Jim called, and his father went closer. “Look, a bird has fallen out of this small tree.” He looked down at the bird, and said, “It looks as if it cannot fly. Will you take it and put it in one of the trees in the backyard where it will be safer?”
Carefully taking the bird, a dove, my husband saw it was indeed injured, and smiled. Not many teenagers were so kind and tenderhearted. Most would have walked past the bird on the ground, some not even noticing.
That was the last time we saw him alive.
After 'the knock’
We went through the same horror many others have suffered and are suffering.
Shock, horror, disbelief, guilt, wishing it was a nightmare and we would wake up and Jim would be back home. In all honesty, I can think of no words to describe the feelings that threatened to overwhelm us, not only then… but for a long time after.
You might not like the police, your parents, the rules, but believe this…
The rules are there for protection, not to make your life difficult.
Please, honor those who love you.
Obey the rules – and THINK.
With heartfelt empathy for all who are walking this path, wherever you are on your journey.
Posted early in the hope it will save someone answering ‘the knock.’