Better to Marry than to Burn

Who said that it is better to marry than to burn?
The Bible.

However, if you cannot control your desires, you should get married. It is better for you to marry than to burn [with sexual desire].
1 Cor 7: 9 God’s Word Translation

‘With sexual desire’ as it is above is in brackets, or ‘with lust’ as in some other translation,s is in italics – which indicates those words are not in the original Greek, but have been added by the translator to clarify.

But what if the translator is wrong?  I am not saying this is true, just sharing some thoughts because there is another scripture that might apply.

But first…

If not burning with lust (as one translation puts it) I have a question.

Why is it better to marry than to burn?

Could it be that suppressed sexual desire will cause problems?

Celibacy of Roman Catholic Priesthood.

Cardinal Joseph Ratzinger (later Pope Benedict XVI) in Salt of the Earth saw this practice [celibacy of priests] as based on Jesus’ words in Matthew 19:12: “Some are eunuchs because they were born that way; others were made that way by men; and others have renounced marriage because of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it.” He linked this celibacy “because of the kingdom of heaven” with God’s choice to confer the Old Testament priesthood on a specific tribe, that of Levi, which unlike the other tribes received no land from God, but which had “God himself as its inheritance” (Numbers 1:48–53).

 

Something is out of focus. Levitical priests COULD marry. In fact, how could the priestly line have continued it they had not?

Levitical priest


“They must not marry women defiled by prostitution or divorced from their husbands, because priests are holy to their God. Regard them as holy, because they offer up the food of your God. Consider them holy, because I the Lord am holy—I who make you holy.

Lev 21: 7, 8

Sexual abstinence

Sexual abstinence such as those of the Encratites sect of Christians was only one aspect of ascetic renunciation, and both natural and unnatural asceticism have been part of Christian asceticism.

Those second century AD Christians were not the only ones who practiced abstinence. Some of the other branches of Gnostic believers also believed similarly.

Sexual Sin

Better to marry than burn in the lake of fire
There is a Lake of Fire!

Sadly, there have been many reports about sexual abuse in the Roman Catholic Church, and many victims, both male and female.

Sexual abuse of a young person is not something they recover from. Many commit suicide later in life, some become abusers themselves, others learn to live with their damaged past.

Nothing can replace a lost childhood, or undo the memories they live with.

There is a long list of abused children in Western Australia. Below is a section of an article by ‘Broken Rites’ – you can find information on the organization here http://www.brokenrites.org.au/drupal/node/246

·        By a Broken Rites researcher, article updated 11 June 2018

Broken Rites has researched the career of Catholic priest Father Adrian van Klooster. He started his priestly career in New South Wales but, after offending there, he was transferred across the continent to work in parishes in Western Australia. He was jailed in 2003 for sexual crimes against W.A. children. After van Klooster’s bad publicity, the Catholic Church chose not to appoint him to any more parishes. On 8 September 2017, Van Klooster was jailed again in W.A. for recent child pornography offences.

Celibacy is not ‘working’ for these men. It has led them to sexual sins. And here is where the other scripture I mentioned at the start comes in…

But to the cowardly and unbelieving and abominable and murderers and sexually immoral and sorcerers and idolaters and all liars, their place will be in the lake that burns with fire and sulfur. This is the second death.”
Revelation 21: 8

Many people, even those who study the Bible, miss the Book of Revelation out. ‘It’s too confusing’ or it’s ‘too scary’ are some of the comments I have heard.

Just because we choose not to read something does not make it go away. That’s like a child closing his or her eyes and declaring, “You can’t see me.”

Do you think it better to marry than to burn?

The evidence seems to suggest that some people have low sexual desire and would be able to handle celibacy…

“Hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD) and sexual aversion disorder (SAD) are an under-diagnosed group of disorders that affect men and women.”
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2695750/

Sadly, there is much evidence that celibacy is not a natural state for many who attempt it.

Somber musings,

Susan

Leave a Comment